The Perfect Present...

By very nature humans are curious. This curiosity, however, sometimes lead us to doing stuff that we, later, regret.
When things turn out to be in our favor, we usually gain something-Experience, which by the way is a good thing.
But how do we cope and thereafter deal with the aftermath when things turn out to be against us and therefore leave us with nothing but the regret of having done them.

Most people try to condone what has happened and TRY to move on (and, well most of those "most people" are usually successful), but can we really move away from the damage that has already been done. Can we ever really get ride of those ghosts that come back over and over, to haunt us and remind of all the evil that we did. That "evil" can be anything varying from breaking someone’s property for own interest to breaking someone’s heart. Having done something bad in past is it possible to minimize its effects on our present and plan a better future. And more importantly:
How can we move on, if our past is present...???

Two to Tango...???

“One, who runs alone, runs faster.”
Not many people will disagree to that, not many people will want to be alone. Recently, one of my friends decided to make a project all by him selves. Very soon he realized that he has made a mistake. Which had me wondering, what is the reason, why we can’t be confident to do anything all by our self. Is it the fear of failing? Or simple the fear of being all alone?
Personally I prefer to be alone. Its not that I don’t fear being left alone but I think in my case the fear of not having the absolute control of the situation (no matter how small), is way scarier than the fear of being left alone. And control can came only when you are alone or obviously, when everyone is your slave.
Coming to the present situation, I would’ve never left the group. Had any such thing happened, I would have never expressed my fear of being alone (even if I was and I’m sure I would have been). I think what my friend did by leaving the group was stupid but latter had doubts of his capacities and expressed them. Which leave us all with the thought- Can he have done it alone and more importantly, Can we…???
I’m sure this whole scenario had us all wondering, which one is having a better shot to survival-
Being alone or along…???

The Dad Effect...

We often read that the best relationship a child shares is with his father. One of my friends' dad is what most of people would call a "cool" dad. No denying of the fact, I'm not one of them. His father lets him travels where ever he wants, whenever he want. He also monitors his academic activities (although he considers that to be an entirely different field) and irrespective of what his academic result is, his "other" fields aren't jeopardized (lets just say, influenced in anyways). My friend turned out to be doing exceedingly well when it comes to hangin’ out and moderately well in academics.

This whole scenario had me wondering how our relationship with our father influences what we will turn out to be. And how will that influence our subsequent relations. Does a healthy relation guarantee a healthy, well interactive relation with our son? Or does a bad relation mean we’ll be having a bad relation with our sons? And if so, is it possible to break the latency. Getting sucked up in all these doubts, one couldn’t help but wonder:
To what extent does a father figure, figures???

"Just Friends..."

When a couple break up, what follows is a period of sheer loneliness, depression and
helplessness. People tell themselves that maybe this relationship wasn't meant to be,
maybe theirs someone else out their for them.

But what if the break is mutual and happily agreed upon by both members. What happens
then...??? Do we continue to be in touch, still care and be what people call "just
friends", or do we strike out that person from our life ones and for all ???

I have a friend who use to have a crush on a guy but couldn't "nurture" the relation
because he never looked at her "that" way. Now, she tries to avoid him and yet not to
be rude, they talk occasionally and are "just friends". In today's busy times, when we
are bound to run into someone we desperately want to avoid, what strategy should we
go for. To be open to that person (and risking another emotional disaster) or cut
him/her out of our lives in one strike.
And so in the end, one couldn't help but wonder:
Do we really need "open-ness" to have closure...???

Models and Morals...

Somebody once said, "Nothing is perfect.". Applying the same to
achieving a happy relationship, does it implies that a person
may have to look out for more than one special "one", so as to
have all that, that he has dreamt for in his spouse.What if you find yourself in a situation in which you are sexually attracted to one person and emotionally to another
(Which by the way, is a fairly common situation).

Does the fact, that a person may be having two seperate
relationships because his "needs" (NOT sexual, particularly),
weren't been fulfilled by one, makes him disloyal towards one or
another...??? Humans by very nature wants the best for
themselves. We use our computers for gaming and our mobiles for
making calls only, not for playing games because apparently we
want a "better" resolution in games.

Even in sexual sense, everyone wants a model in bed...but when
it comes to emotional support, we want someone with moral
values (and models surely aren't that "moral").

When this concept is followed in real life, with humans, a
person often finds himself unable to decide which relation to
keep and which one to let go, without being unfaithful(if thats
possible).So,I guess one could help but wonder:
Multiple relations-In or Out...???

"Business Over, Game Over"...???

Someone posted a comment in response to one of my post "Faking it...", saying "Business Over, Game Over". As much as I appreciate anyone posting a comment, this one had me wondering, does after a (long romantic) break up, the third person really understand what those two people had shared and genuinely empathize.

When people fall in love, they not only share good times, the share a bond, a bond only they can feel and understand. So, i guess according to Newton's third law (action induces reaction), only those two people will have to experience the ordeal, the aftermath. Apparently, no one can understand what happened but they themselves and only they'll have to deal with the loss alone and finally come to their own rescue.

Different people have different responses to there break up...Some go into disavowal, some just call their friends with the hope that they'll help, not realising that "beholder can merely talk about the beauty, not produce it.". With or without any ones help, one can only try to come their own rescue and so, i guess in these vulnerable situation one could help but wonder:
Will the "business" be ever done...???

Trisexual...

"I'm a trisexual. I'll try anything ones."- Samantha Jones(In Sex and the city).

Humans breed several bad qualities and one of them (and perhaps the most irritating)
is bragging. We find people committing to it all the time. And several times we do so
too. Telling others about our abilities to do "things", irrespective of how many of
them are indeed true. But one thing we manage to be particularly discreet about is our
INability to apologize. Its a simple act, requires much less fakeness than bragging,
it in-fact does makes people likes us. But here's the tough part- it requires guts to
admit that we've been wrong and we've wronged someone.
People pass through life never talking to each other just because one of them wasn't
courageous enough to say- "You were right and I'm sorry...". I'm sure everyone here
tells themselves that when we'll be in such situation, we'll apologize, we'll take the
higher road.
I think, we should stop trying to convince ourselves-"We'll do it when the right time
comes." (because the right time will never come) and try apologizing instead. Because,
when we in-fact will be in such a situation, we'll ask ourselves, do we have the
boldness to TRY IT.
Can we be trisexuals...???