On the path from getting the heart broken to mending it back up, their comes a point when the person traveling that road become too tired to experience any further emotional ache. Some says its a good sign, something that will help in so called "Moving on"... Others say that's its better to let it all out, bottling up the emotions of a love lost will only cause the pain to return many folds over. In the amidst of all these possibilities, their also exist another situation, where the heart has been broken beyond the point of any immediate repair and well, POSSIBLY time is the only healer. And frankly, the chances of this "possibility" to occur may exit but in most cases, what if they don't ???
How does that emotionally stunted person, gets to know, if he's heading towards a happy "destiny" (by moving on) or simply falling towards the disaster...??? Agreed, that in not knowing, and carrying on, their may be a chance of happiness but theirs also potential danger, something from which a person might never recover. In the end, I guess what I'm trying to say is-
When it comes to complications of the heart, how do we get to know if we are falling or flying...???
Sunday, September 7, 2008
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
A "Friendly" Family...
The bell sounded precisely at 5 pm. Within moments, students came out rushing from their examination center, together for one last time. Each carrying with them a happy expression, an expression that clearly showed the relieve that "IT" was finally over. Amongst all the camaraderie another emotion that made it's presence felt was that of sadness, sadness that also marked the end of an era. An era that started four year earlier, when we were all nothing but strangers to each other...
FOUR YEAR EARLIER
College life, as depicted on television is everything but studies. Cool helpful seniors, great campus building that expands up to infinity, a rush of students each busy in its own way, the list goes on. When I saw my college for the first time, it was everything except what I had imagined it would be. Anyways, as the time passed on, WE became more tuned to the college (our home away from home) and as for the "WE" part, I've meet some of the best friends here. I've seen strangers become mere acquaintances then friends and that friendship turning into a bond I never imagined existed or possible.
MY FRIENDS
Mr. A S P: Usually, I'm not wrong in reading people, but, frankly I was wrong in his case. On the first day of college (or something like that), I thought of him to be an average, shy guy (and few other things I would rather not mention...), but as the time has passed, he's managed to impugn all my conclusions that I ones drew of him.
A very generous, honest, calm, not at all introvert and most of all straight forward (and by god that straight forwardness has irritated me over the years). Not to sound like cliché, but ready to help his friends at anytime of the day and in any way possible. I'm saying this because I remember him saving my ass on one occasion, when all of my other "friends" bailed on me. Anyways, he's one of the "good to have around kind of people". By the way, did I mention that he LOVES traveling.
And I'm not at all ashamed to say this but I’ve learned a lot of things from him. Things that I couldn't have learned any other way...things that nobody could have taught anyone.
Ms. V K: One thing that you'd notice about this girl is that she is really slim, on further
inspection, which would take sometime, you'll realize that this slim body houses a really big, kind, generous and frankly, a vulnerable heart. She is shy, I know that, but I also know that if you mess with her she is not going to hesitate in slapping you, followed by few punches in the stomach. Sometimes, A P and I get the slapping for no apparent reasons at all.
It didn't took me long to realize that she was a girl searching for something, something that has managed to escape her so long. Several years, several heart aches latter she had immerged as a stronger woman. A strong woman, with still a vulnerable and pure heart.
She has always to me, symbolized the silver lining that's present in dark clouds. And time after time, she has given me good and honest advices, something so rare in today's world.
Mr. G: I've known him longer than any of my other friends and he too has been an important part of my life. I'm not going to write much about him except that he's too is a true believer of studying one night before exams and "We'll see what happens" concept. In college, we sat next to each other and I don't think I could have found a better companion.
We've been together in school, a preparatory institute and then in college and I really hope for that to stay the same in future too.
Mr. M: He is by far THE most introvert guys I’ve ever met. Having said that, he's also one the most meticulously hard working people I’ve came across. One thing that I’ve always loved about him is that he never argued with anyone. He has a magical quality of making peace with whatever the life has to offer. One thing that I’m reminded of when i look at him and his accommodating behavior is the quote written in Bible...
"IT IS SO, IT CAN NOT BE OTHERWISE."
It means that sometimes we have to give in, and accept what life has given us, irrespective of whether we like it or not.
In all these years that we've been together, I've not only watched, I've cheered him on, in this journey of life and I really hope he finds what he's looking for...All the best.
Mr. R S: Before I write something about him, let me just say that he's a good friend of A and not so good friend of me, frankly because I never spoke to him respectfully and I genuinely apologize for that.
The reason that I'm mentioning him is partly because he too has been a closely linked part of our college life, sharing with us all the ups and downs and partly because, I REALLY admire his ability to not retaliate. All these years, when I've been rude to him not ones has be retaliated back. During our final year in college, I actually got to know him and found out that he was a simple down to earth guy who never interfered with anyone. Did I mention, He's REALLY scared of all the teachers and what not...He just can't stand up to the people in authority for his own purpose. Well, I really hope he changes that and my best wishes for your future...
Mr. T K: He joined us in our second year and ever since, he's been like an elder brother to me. The reason, I'm saying this is because I’ve felt a touch of concern in his voice, most of the time he spoke to me. Although, I don't have much to say to him but one advice that I'll give him is to stop photographing people in public buses, one day you might get bashed for that. I hope we stay in touch...
THE FUTURE
We find many people in many different walks of life, but only a very few handful of them are willing to lend a helping hand. I found few such people and all of these people have influence my life in numerous indelible ways. And I really wish that we all stay in touch with each other...
FOUR YEAR EARLIER
College life, as depicted on television is everything but studies. Cool helpful seniors, great campus building that expands up to infinity, a rush of students each busy in its own way, the list goes on. When I saw my college for the first time, it was everything except what I had imagined it would be. Anyways, as the time passed on, WE became more tuned to the college (our home away from home) and as for the "WE" part, I've meet some of the best friends here. I've seen strangers become mere acquaintances then friends and that friendship turning into a bond I never imagined existed or possible.
MY FRIENDS
Mr. A S P: Usually, I'm not wrong in reading people, but, frankly I was wrong in his case. On the first day of college (or something like that), I thought of him to be an average, shy guy (and few other things I would rather not mention...), but as the time has passed, he's managed to impugn all my conclusions that I ones drew of him.
A very generous, honest, calm, not at all introvert and most of all straight forward (and by god that straight forwardness has irritated me over the years). Not to sound like cliché, but ready to help his friends at anytime of the day and in any way possible. I'm saying this because I remember him saving my ass on one occasion, when all of my other "friends" bailed on me. Anyways, he's one of the "good to have around kind of people". By the way, did I mention that he LOVES traveling.
And I'm not at all ashamed to say this but I’ve learned a lot of things from him. Things that I couldn't have learned any other way...things that nobody could have taught anyone.
Ms. V K: One thing that you'd notice about this girl is that she is really slim, on further
inspection, which would take sometime, you'll realize that this slim body houses a really big, kind, generous and frankly, a vulnerable heart. She is shy, I know that, but I also know that if you mess with her she is not going to hesitate in slapping you, followed by few punches in the stomach. Sometimes, A P and I get the slapping for no apparent reasons at all.
It didn't took me long to realize that she was a girl searching for something, something that has managed to escape her so long. Several years, several heart aches latter she had immerged as a stronger woman. A strong woman, with still a vulnerable and pure heart.
She has always to me, symbolized the silver lining that's present in dark clouds. And time after time, she has given me good and honest advices, something so rare in today's world.
Mr. G: I've known him longer than any of my other friends and he too has been an important part of my life. I'm not going to write much about him except that he's too is a true believer of studying one night before exams and "We'll see what happens" concept. In college, we sat next to each other and I don't think I could have found a better companion.
We've been together in school, a preparatory institute and then in college and I really hope for that to stay the same in future too.
Mr. M: He is by far THE most introvert guys I’ve ever met. Having said that, he's also one the most meticulously hard working people I’ve came across. One thing that I’ve always loved about him is that he never argued with anyone. He has a magical quality of making peace with whatever the life has to offer. One thing that I’m reminded of when i look at him and his accommodating behavior is the quote written in Bible...
"IT IS SO, IT CAN NOT BE OTHERWISE."
It means that sometimes we have to give in, and accept what life has given us, irrespective of whether we like it or not.
In all these years that we've been together, I've not only watched, I've cheered him on, in this journey of life and I really hope he finds what he's looking for...All the best.
Mr. R S: Before I write something about him, let me just say that he's a good friend of A and not so good friend of me, frankly because I never spoke to him respectfully and I genuinely apologize for that.
The reason that I'm mentioning him is partly because he too has been a closely linked part of our college life, sharing with us all the ups and downs and partly because, I REALLY admire his ability to not retaliate. All these years, when I've been rude to him not ones has be retaliated back. During our final year in college, I actually got to know him and found out that he was a simple down to earth guy who never interfered with anyone. Did I mention, He's REALLY scared of all the teachers and what not...He just can't stand up to the people in authority for his own purpose. Well, I really hope he changes that and my best wishes for your future...
Mr. T K: He joined us in our second year and ever since, he's been like an elder brother to me. The reason, I'm saying this is because I’ve felt a touch of concern in his voice, most of the time he spoke to me. Although, I don't have much to say to him but one advice that I'll give him is to stop photographing people in public buses, one day you might get bashed for that. I hope we stay in touch...
THE FUTURE
We find many people in many different walks of life, but only a very few handful of them are willing to lend a helping hand. I found few such people and all of these people have influence my life in numerous indelible ways. And I really wish that we all stay in touch with each other...
Sunday, June 8, 2008
High Sexpectations...???
Its often said that a good sexual chemistry is necessary for a successful marital life. If you are good in bed, you are a great spouse. If you are bad in bed your marriage is doomed to fail, sooner or later. But one thing that people usually rule out, is the possibility of a couple having a strong emotional bond while unable to maintaining an equally strong sexual one.
According a study, a man thinks sexually after every 7 seconds and a woman after every 11. But as the traditions says since sex and romantic emotions are inter twined with each other, we should also be thinking of our spouse after few seconds (or to be more precise, whenever we think sexually). But we all know, that rarely is the case. When its possible to have one night stand, just to satisfy the desires of the body and not get emotionally involved...is it really impossible the other way around, to have an emotional connection to satisfy the desires of heart, without the occasional physical connection.
So, why does it seems so difficult to imagine a couple (by which I don't only mean a married ones) sharing a NON-sexual relationship, where they understand each other to such a level that can only be described as, "Two bodies and One soul.".
When it comes to romantic relationships and matters of hearts, one couldn't help but wonder:
Is an emotional rapport really slave to sexual outcomes...???
According a study, a man thinks sexually after every 7 seconds and a woman after every 11. But as the traditions says since sex and romantic emotions are inter twined with each other, we should also be thinking of our spouse after few seconds (or to be more precise, whenever we think sexually). But we all know, that rarely is the case. When its possible to have one night stand, just to satisfy the desires of the body and not get emotionally involved...is it really impossible the other way around, to have an emotional connection to satisfy the desires of heart, without the occasional physical connection.
So, why does it seems so difficult to imagine a couple (by which I don't only mean a married ones) sharing a NON-sexual relationship, where they understand each other to such a level that can only be described as, "Two bodies and One soul.".
When it comes to romantic relationships and matters of hearts, one couldn't help but wonder:
Is an emotional rapport really slave to sexual outcomes...???
Monday, January 7, 2008
The pursuit of Happiness...
Most of us have kissed another person at one point of time or another. And irrespective of whose kissing whom, each kiss seems to carry a message all its own. It could be from a girlfriend to convey her love, from a mother to depict care or from a brother to express a sense of security. But each kiss carries a common underlining desire, a desire to connect to another human being.
The desire seems to manifest itself profoundly when the pair is involved romantically. But what happens when things don't seem to work out between them (because of any reason) and a break-up is inevitable. What follows is a period of intense emotional pain and emptiness, to which different people respond in different ways. Some enters into a state of denial, some just move on. I guess latter ones have a better "approach". Former ones keep holding on to the "good old memories", for someone who doesn't even bothers to care, and eventually begin spending a large period of time being depressed (I've spent more than 5 months myself).
A writer once said, "Sometimes you have to let go of something, to realize whether it was worth holding on to.". I guess, what I'm trying to say is that, yes although their have been heart aches, but its not the end of the world. Sooner or later we HAVE to move on. We have to acknowledge the fact that it wasn't worth holding on to, and move on. I've learnt it the hard way, I just hope that you done.
The desire seems to manifest itself profoundly when the pair is involved romantically. But what happens when things don't seem to work out between them (because of any reason) and a break-up is inevitable. What follows is a period of intense emotional pain and emptiness, to which different people respond in different ways. Some enters into a state of denial, some just move on. I guess latter ones have a better "approach". Former ones keep holding on to the "good old memories", for someone who doesn't even bothers to care, and eventually begin spending a large period of time being depressed (I've spent more than 5 months myself).
A writer once said, "Sometimes you have to let go of something, to realize whether it was worth holding on to.". I guess, what I'm trying to say is that, yes although their have been heart aches, but its not the end of the world. Sooner or later we HAVE to move on. We have to acknowledge the fact that it wasn't worth holding on to, and move on. I've learnt it the hard way, I just hope that you done.
Sunday, September 9, 2007
Anchor away...
Their are very few people who are lucky enough to have met someone they truly fell in love with, and even fewer who received love in return. For those "fewer" ones, everything changes, the grass seems greener, the sun light crisper and people more friendly. I guess we can say, its the "side effect" of being with that special one. Or as lovers like to call it- Butterflies in stomach...
But as the time passes, the magic seems to wear thin and eventually what's left is two people, who once were in love, but now merely stay together. At that particular time, what aspect gets to decide what should be done...??? Should they continue to live together and try to cherish "the good ol' days", or should they agree to separate and explore for the other options...???
I guess either way, its a gambit one has to take so as to win it all or risk losing everything. And one couldn't help but wonder-
What will happen after the butterflies have flown away...???
Thursday, September 6, 2007
A Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime
Everyday we meet numerous people. We loath some, we like some and then their are those that touch us in a way that we can't imagine to stay without them. We stop thinking rationally and what follows is...lets say, magical time. What we don't realise is that everything that has come, must leave as well.
People come into our life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When someone is in our life for a REASON...It is usually to meet a need we have expressed. They have come to assist us through a difficulty, to provide us with guidance and support us emotionally. They may seem like a godsend, and they are!Then, without any wrong doing on our part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. What we must realise is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
When people come into our life for a SEASON its our turn to share, grow, or learn.They bring us an experience of peace, or make you laugh.They may teach us something we have never done.They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach us lifetime lessons; things we must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Our job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what we have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of our life.
But the question still remains- Can we ever really figure out whose with us for what...??? And more importantly-
Can we accept that...???
PS: Some part of this particular post has been taken from another article.
People come into our life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When someone is in our life for a REASON...It is usually to meet a need we have expressed. They have come to assist us through a difficulty, to provide us with guidance and support us emotionally. They may seem like a godsend, and they are!Then, without any wrong doing on our part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. What we must realise is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
When people come into our life for a SEASON its our turn to share, grow, or learn.They bring us an experience of peace, or make you laugh.They may teach us something we have never done.They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach us lifetime lessons; things we must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Our job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what we have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of our life.
But the question still remains- Can we ever really figure out whose with us for what...??? And more importantly-
Can we accept that...???
PS: Some part of this particular post has been taken from another article.
Monday, September 3, 2007
The Halo Effect...
You are walking down the street and you spot a nice, good looking girl with a decent and polite smile walk by, and you think to yourself, "This is the kindda girl that I wanna marry. She isn't having even a single ounce of malice on her..." . This is called "THE HALO EFFECT". We see someone "seemingly nice" and we associate them to goodness. (and let me assure you, this is a very dangerous assumption).
Many a times, when we are with someone (which can be anyone, a friend, a spouse etc) we do stuff that we know isn't right, but we continue doing it just for the thrill and excitment it provide. And after its done, many times what follows is the shame of doing it. Only to end up doing it all over again with the same person... When we were kids these kinds of activities
were considered normal, but being an adult and knowing that we can't afford this behaviour, we eventually start to thinking that something is wrong with us. But why do we always have to associate this sinister behaviour with us, why not that "other" person...??? After-all its being with them that causes us to go crazy (althought in an exciting and thrilling way). And this whole scenario causes us to think, what is the root cause of this mess ??? and more importantly-
Is it us...or them ???
Many a times, when we are with someone (which can be anyone, a friend, a spouse etc) we do stuff that we know isn't right, but we continue doing it just for the thrill and excitment it provide. And after its done, many times what follows is the shame of doing it. Only to end up doing it all over again with the same person... When we were kids these kinds of activities
were considered normal, but being an adult and knowing that we can't afford this behaviour, we eventually start to thinking that something is wrong with us. But why do we always have to associate this sinister behaviour with us, why not that "other" person...??? After-all its being with them that causes us to go crazy (althought in an exciting and thrilling way). And this whole scenario causes us to think, what is the root cause of this mess ??? and more importantly-
Is it us...or them ???
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