Anchor away...

Their are very few people who are lucky enough to have met someone they truly fell in love with, and even fewer who received love in return. For those "fewer" ones, everything changes, the grass seems greener, the sun light crisper and people more friendly. I guess we can say, its the "side effect" of being with that special one. Or as lovers like to call it- Butterflies in stomach...

But as the time passes, the magic seems to wear thin and eventually what's left is two people, who once were in love, but now merely stay together. At that particular time, what aspect gets to decide what should be done...??? Should they continue to live together and try to cherish "the good ol' days", or should they agree to separate and explore for the other options...???

I guess either way, its a gambit one has to take so as to win it all or risk losing everything. And one couldn't help but wonder-

What will happen after the butterflies have flown away...???

A Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime

Everyday we meet numerous people. We loath some, we like some and then their are those that touch us in a way that we can't imagine to stay without them. We stop thinking rationally and what follows is...lets say, magical time. What we don't realise is that everything that has come, must leave as well.
People come into our life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When someone is in our life for a REASON...It is usually to meet a need we have expressed. They have come to assist us through a difficulty, to provide us with guidance and support us emotionally. They may seem like a godsend, and they are!Then, without any wrong doing on our part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. What we must realise is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
When people come into our life for a SEASON its our turn to share, grow, or learn.They bring us an experience of peace, or make you laugh.They may teach us something we have never done.They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach us lifetime lessons; things we must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Our job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what we have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of our life.
But the question still remains- Can we ever really figure out whose with us for what...??? And more importantly-
Can we accept that...???

PS: Some part of this particular post has been taken from another article.

The Halo Effect...

You are walking down the street and you spot a nice, good looking girl with a decent and polite smile walk by, and you think to yourself, "This is the kindda girl that I wanna marry. She isn't having even a single ounce of malice on her..." . This is called "THE HALO EFFECT". We see someone "seemingly nice" and we associate them to goodness. (and let me assure you, this is a very dangerous assumption).
Many a times, when we are with someone (which can be anyone, a friend, a spouse etc) we do stuff that we know isn't right, but we continue doing it just for the thrill and excitment it provide. And after its done, many times what follows is the shame of doing it. Only to end up doing it all over again with the same person... When we were kids these kinds of activities
were considered normal, but being an adult and knowing that we can't afford this behaviour, we eventually start to thinking that something is wrong with us. But why do we always have to associate this sinister behaviour with us, why not that "other" person...??? After-all its being with them that causes us to go crazy (althought in an exciting and thrilling way). And this whole scenario causes us to think, what is the root cause of this mess ??? and more importantly-
Is it us...or them ???