Anchor away...

Their are very few people who are lucky enough to have met someone they truly fell in love with, and even fewer who received love in return. For those "fewer" ones, everything changes, the grass seems greener, the sun light crisper and people more friendly. I guess we can say, its the "side effect" of being with that special one. Or as lovers like to call it- Butterflies in stomach...

But as the time passes, the magic seems to wear thin and eventually what's left is two people, who once were in love, but now merely stay together. At that particular time, what aspect gets to decide what should be done...??? Should they continue to live together and try to cherish "the good ol' days", or should they agree to separate and explore for the other options...???

I guess either way, its a gambit one has to take so as to win it all or risk losing everything. And one couldn't help but wonder-

What will happen after the butterflies have flown away...???

A Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime

Everyday we meet numerous people. We loath some, we like some and then their are those that touch us in a way that we can't imagine to stay without them. We stop thinking rationally and what follows is...lets say, magical time. What we don't realise is that everything that has come, must leave as well.
People come into our life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When someone is in our life for a REASON...It is usually to meet a need we have expressed. They have come to assist us through a difficulty, to provide us with guidance and support us emotionally. They may seem like a godsend, and they are!Then, without any wrong doing on our part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. What we must realise is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
When people come into our life for a SEASON its our turn to share, grow, or learn.They bring us an experience of peace, or make you laugh.They may teach us something we have never done.They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach us lifetime lessons; things we must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Our job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what we have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of our life.
But the question still remains- Can we ever really figure out whose with us for what...??? And more importantly-
Can we accept that...???

PS: Some part of this particular post has been taken from another article.

The Halo Effect...

You are walking down the street and you spot a nice, good looking girl with a decent and polite smile walk by, and you think to yourself, "This is the kindda girl that I wanna marry. She isn't having even a single ounce of malice on her..." . This is called "THE HALO EFFECT". We see someone "seemingly nice" and we associate them to goodness. (and let me assure you, this is a very dangerous assumption).
Many a times, when we are with someone (which can be anyone, a friend, a spouse etc) we do stuff that we know isn't right, but we continue doing it just for the thrill and excitment it provide. And after its done, many times what follows is the shame of doing it. Only to end up doing it all over again with the same person... When we were kids these kinds of activities
were considered normal, but being an adult and knowing that we can't afford this behaviour, we eventually start to thinking that something is wrong with us. But why do we always have to associate this sinister behaviour with us, why not that "other" person...??? After-all its being with them that causes us to go crazy (althought in an exciting and thrilling way). And this whole scenario causes us to think, what is the root cause of this mess ??? and more importantly-
Is it us...or them ???

The Perfect Present...

By very nature humans are curious. This curiosity, however, sometimes lead us to doing stuff that we, later, regret.
When things turn out to be in our favor, we usually gain something-Experience, which by the way is a good thing.
But how do we cope and thereafter deal with the aftermath when things turn out to be against us and therefore leave us with nothing but the regret of having done them.

Most people try to condone what has happened and TRY to move on (and, well most of those "most people" are usually successful), but can we really move away from the damage that has already been done. Can we ever really get ride of those ghosts that come back over and over, to haunt us and remind of all the evil that we did. That "evil" can be anything varying from breaking someone’s property for own interest to breaking someone’s heart. Having done something bad in past is it possible to minimize its effects on our present and plan a better future. And more importantly:
How can we move on, if our past is present...???

Two to Tango...???

“One, who runs alone, runs faster.”
Not many people will disagree to that, not many people will want to be alone. Recently, one of my friends decided to make a project all by him selves. Very soon he realized that he has made a mistake. Which had me wondering, what is the reason, why we can’t be confident to do anything all by our self. Is it the fear of failing? Or simple the fear of being all alone?
Personally I prefer to be alone. Its not that I don’t fear being left alone but I think in my case the fear of not having the absolute control of the situation (no matter how small), is way scarier than the fear of being left alone. And control can came only when you are alone or obviously, when everyone is your slave.
Coming to the present situation, I would’ve never left the group. Had any such thing happened, I would have never expressed my fear of being alone (even if I was and I’m sure I would have been). I think what my friend did by leaving the group was stupid but latter had doubts of his capacities and expressed them. Which leave us all with the thought- Can he have done it alone and more importantly, Can we…???
I’m sure this whole scenario had us all wondering, which one is having a better shot to survival-
Being alone or along…???

The Dad Effect...

We often read that the best relationship a child shares is with his father. One of my friends' dad is what most of people would call a "cool" dad. No denying of the fact, I'm not one of them. His father lets him travels where ever he wants, whenever he want. He also monitors his academic activities (although he considers that to be an entirely different field) and irrespective of what his academic result is, his "other" fields aren't jeopardized (lets just say, influenced in anyways). My friend turned out to be doing exceedingly well when it comes to hangin’ out and moderately well in academics.

This whole scenario had me wondering how our relationship with our father influences what we will turn out to be. And how will that influence our subsequent relations. Does a healthy relation guarantee a healthy, well interactive relation with our son? Or does a bad relation mean we’ll be having a bad relation with our sons? And if so, is it possible to break the latency. Getting sucked up in all these doubts, one couldn’t help but wonder:
To what extent does a father figure, figures???

"Just Friends..."

When a couple break up, what follows is a period of sheer loneliness, depression and
helplessness. People tell themselves that maybe this relationship wasn't meant to be,
maybe theirs someone else out their for them.

But what if the break is mutual and happily agreed upon by both members. What happens
then...??? Do we continue to be in touch, still care and be what people call "just
friends", or do we strike out that person from our life ones and for all ???

I have a friend who use to have a crush on a guy but couldn't "nurture" the relation
because he never looked at her "that" way. Now, she tries to avoid him and yet not to
be rude, they talk occasionally and are "just friends". In today's busy times, when we
are bound to run into someone we desperately want to avoid, what strategy should we
go for. To be open to that person (and risking another emotional disaster) or cut
him/her out of our lives in one strike.
And so in the end, one couldn't help but wonder:
Do we really need "open-ness" to have closure...???

Models and Morals...

Somebody once said, "Nothing is perfect.". Applying the same to
achieving a happy relationship, does it implies that a person
may have to look out for more than one special "one", so as to
have all that, that he has dreamt for in his spouse.What if you find yourself in a situation in which you are sexually attracted to one person and emotionally to another
(Which by the way, is a fairly common situation).

Does the fact, that a person may be having two seperate
relationships because his "needs" (NOT sexual, particularly),
weren't been fulfilled by one, makes him disloyal towards one or
another...??? Humans by very nature wants the best for
themselves. We use our computers for gaming and our mobiles for
making calls only, not for playing games because apparently we
want a "better" resolution in games.

Even in sexual sense, everyone wants a model in bed...but when
it comes to emotional support, we want someone with moral
values (and models surely aren't that "moral").

When this concept is followed in real life, with humans, a
person often finds himself unable to decide which relation to
keep and which one to let go, without being unfaithful(if thats
possible).So,I guess one could help but wonder:
Multiple relations-In or Out...???

"Business Over, Game Over"...???

Someone posted a comment in response to one of my post "Faking it...", saying "Business Over, Game Over". As much as I appreciate anyone posting a comment, this one had me wondering, does after a (long romantic) break up, the third person really understand what those two people had shared and genuinely empathize.

When people fall in love, they not only share good times, the share a bond, a bond only they can feel and understand. So, i guess according to Newton's third law (action induces reaction), only those two people will have to experience the ordeal, the aftermath. Apparently, no one can understand what happened but they themselves and only they'll have to deal with the loss alone and finally come to their own rescue.

Different people have different responses to there break up...Some go into disavowal, some just call their friends with the hope that they'll help, not realising that "beholder can merely talk about the beauty, not produce it.". With or without any ones help, one can only try to come their own rescue and so, i guess in these vulnerable situation one could help but wonder:
Will the "business" be ever done...???

Trisexual...

"I'm a trisexual. I'll try anything ones."- Samantha Jones(In Sex and the city).

Humans breed several bad qualities and one of them (and perhaps the most irritating)
is bragging. We find people committing to it all the time. And several times we do so
too. Telling others about our abilities to do "things", irrespective of how many of
them are indeed true. But one thing we manage to be particularly discreet about is our
INability to apologize. Its a simple act, requires much less fakeness than bragging,
it in-fact does makes people likes us. But here's the tough part- it requires guts to
admit that we've been wrong and we've wronged someone.
People pass through life never talking to each other just because one of them wasn't
courageous enough to say- "You were right and I'm sorry...". I'm sure everyone here
tells themselves that when we'll be in such situation, we'll apologize, we'll take the
higher road.
I think, we should stop trying to convince ourselves-"We'll do it when the right time
comes." (because the right time will never come) and try apologizing instead. Because,
when we in-fact will be in such a situation, we'll ask ourselves, do we have the
boldness to TRY IT.
Can we be trisexuals...???

Love...Fed Ex-ed ???

Living in a cosmopolitan city, one thing that you are sure to site is that of a teenage (or even 20 something) boy and a girl together, hands in hands, sitting under a tree or hangin' out in malls. Ask them (individually), do they plan to marry each other and, unhesitatingly most of the "pairs" will say- "Hell No...!!!". Which causes one to wonder, How do you get to define the relationship that you guys are in ??? And ones again, the reply is prompt as ever- "We are dating.", complemented with a smile.

I think the word these guys should use is "passing time", with each other. Each one considering to be taking advantage of other not knowing that the feeling are mutual. Which brings us to think, why after-all, they call each other "Love Birds", hang out as a couple, when neither one has any intentions of spending the rest of the life together. Could it be the sheer desperation to be spotted with someone, or simply just "for fun".

One of my friends told me that a person needs to try everything (not exactly in those words) and there are (and I quote) "MANY SEXY GIRLS OUT THERE". Why is it that we have to go for many when clearly we are going to marry only one (provided we do)... In todays career oriented life, when love letters has been replaced by e- mail, naughty innocent comments with SMS and almost anything can be delivered to our door step, can love be fed-exed too (and used like any other article, use it and dispose it). And if so, whats causing this trend.
One couldn't help but wonder:
Are we playboys and sluts or just romantically challenged...???

To pee or not to pee...

Yesterday, I was going to the market, when i saw a man standing against the wall of an establishment- attending to nature call. In todays fast pacing times, when even the newspapers' have incurred a section called "INDIA POISED", is that what we are heading towards. And its not only that indians (this time I'm intentionally not using the word "WE") have restricted themselves to peeing in public places, wrong doings can be spotted in every walk of life here. Be it an officer accepting bribe, drivers drinking and driving (not to mention the consequences), forcing the brides to commit suicide for dowry (and if they don't, well burn them...who cares ???), peeing up against the wall barely makes the list. The list is endless...

And to worsen the situation, no one cares, not even the authorities. Who should be blamed here ??? The authorities alone are not strong enough to clean the filth from society...not anymore atleast. But it doesn't exempts THE PEOPLE either. WE watch some unjust activities happening and WE walk away (deny it or accept it, but this is the fact).I think its time to let go of the fear, let go of the "Why should I ?" and start acting up. Society is going topsy turvy only because we let it. If we didn't do anything now, then the only thing that we can wonder is:
Who will survive our lack of repercussion...???

Faking It...

About a month or so earlier i met a girl and before either one
of us could figure out, we became "GOOD FRIENDS". I had some of
the best times with her. We use to go exploring new places almost everyday. Now she's gone, and no denying of the fact that i miss her a lot. To avoid thinking about her, i decided to hang out with two of my best friends, which led to one of them telling me ,and i quote, "People meet and people depart." (Evidently, i need to acknowledge the fact, forget about her and move on).This whole situation, has caused me to try to explore the very
reason, why the only answer to a loss is to remove all the old
memories that remind us of it. Why is "Moving on", so important ???

(Speaking of general a senerio) People meet, fall in
love and in most cases split up. Break ups are painful, ask
your friends and they’ll tell you to pick up a new hobby, go
out, and keep your self busy, clichés like that. But the main
act of trying to have a partner and not being able to, leave us
all with millions of memories.Some good, some bad... and to think of erasing these memories
after being unsuccessful seems to mock the very essence of all
the good times two people had share. Only to end up dating again (and repeating the whole cycle of make and break).Which begs the question, why do we need to fake an emotional heal up only to get hurt again...???
And more importantly,
Whats it all worth ???

Seven Deadly Sins...

Ever since our childhood, we are taught about the seven deadly sins of life: Pride, Envy, Sloth, Lust, Gluttony and Greed. In case you haven't noticed so far, those are only six. And amazingly the seventh one that we often ignore (considering it to be trivial), is Anger. Many a times, we find ourselves in a situation in which we can only calm ourselves down by delivering a blow on the face of our opponent (and by that, i'm not talking about sports). And, frankly, in most of those situations we do nothing but listen. Althought, its the right choice too (again, in most of the situations, but not all), but how do we get to decide who deserved a violent outburst from our side and who deserves a peaceful banter.
Compromising with family members seems understandable, but what about others ??? Friends, people we meet almost everyday, peer to peer workers. How do we get to express our anger towards them, without actually being offending ??? Well, the answer is we don't or should I say we can't. Ones again, letting all the anger to stay within us, letting it built within us. In todays world, when most of the people are corrupt and no one cares about other but themselves, can a peaceful facade actually survives ??? Not to avocate violence and still not to advocate peace, but now a day when we tend to compromise with mostly everything we are dealted with, I couldn't help but wonder:
When does the act to compromise becomes compromising ???